Everyone should have a bucket list. Now the meaning behind the phrase is a bit dark because it basically means to make a list of things you’d like to do before kicking the bucket (dying). That’s a bit dark but my husband now calls it a living list, or something along those lines. So now it’s a list of things you want to do while you’re alive. Far more positive, yeah?
Reflection time! It’s been a while since a #Deep Thursdays blog was written and this looks like it’s the right time. It won’t be long, I promise, and it won’t have pictures, I apologize.
From the title you pretty much get the gist of it all.. basically time is going by SUPER fast and we’re held accountable for what happens during this short amount of time. It’s crazy how you think you got all the time in the world when really… you don’t.
I’m going to keep this short and simple because I feel like this is something that should be known and that everyone should go by (if that makes any sense). It might also take a turn to a semi-negative road and that is not what I want at all. I love happiness and positivity and that is always what I attempt to spread. That being said, when I see something that I feel strongly about, I like to be open and voice it.
I’ve been trying to figure out what to write today because I usually get all these random thoughts but I can rarely organize them. I decided to just tell you about my latest thought: Finding your drive.
About a month ago or so I had a video on YouTube of me trying to do some Yoga. Even if it seemed funny or that I was joking around, I was genuinely trying to figure out if I could do it or not. Ever since that day, I was trying to really take it seriously but something always came in the way. So until I’d find a good place, I thought I’d start at home and let me tell you, it made a HUGE difference!
My attitude completely changed. I always thought of myself as a positive person but after my daily 30 minutes of morning yoga I found that my mind is always clear. My appetite got better. My energy doubled! Hardly watched TV/checked my phone which made resulted in my productivity to be an all-time high.
The one day that I skipped yoga it was a disaster. I felt so useless. I did not know what to do with my day! I felt a bit lost and I was confused as to why that was the case. Now I don’t know if that’s related to yoga, but it’s the one thing that I’ve done differently.
I encourage you to find what pushes you from within. We’re all blessed with amazing people in our lives that care for us and always give us that needed push, but if we don’t believe in ourselves then what’s the point?
No matter how much or how hard people try to help us, if we can’t help ourselves nothing will ever change.
Find that inner drive.
I think mine was through morning yoga right after I pray fajr.
So in the past few days this has happened:
-suicide bombing in Egypt
-and many many more
If there’s anything I’m missing, plz comment below so that I could update the blog post for awareness.
It leaves me wondering what the heck is happening to the world?!
We need to pray and we need to act!
Below are links to how we could all help because I know that many of us are sitting at home feeling ashamed that we can’t really do much; but we can.
A little goes a long way so let’s do everything in our power.
(If you want to comment with more links or ways to help, PLEASE do so!)
Donating for Aleppo:
Ways to help out in Aleppo, Syria:
Victims of the suicide bombing in Egypt:
Donate blood at the Demerdash hospital and any other hospital in need of it.
As for Burma and Istanbul:
Locate closest Red Cross and see what they need.
And for every country that needs help:
At first I was going to write this as a Reflection on the “Promise for Palestine” event I attended for IRUSA but something made me wait..don’t know what it is but I didn’t write as soon as I got home.
During the event I felt like it was directed more towards only people with Palestinian blood. It did irk me but I was glad that towards the end that was cleared up because I’m proud to not be a Palestinian but rather a Muslim Egyptian attending to help my brothers and sisters that are in desperate need of it.
Palestine and all other countries that need help are always in my heart. It’s my duty, and yours, as human beings to do something.
I was compelled to donate and I had a percentage of my money ready with the intentions of donating. By the end of the event, looking around and seeing my husband beside me and my in laws next to me.. sitting and remembering my family back in egypt, I think of how blessed I am.
I donated all my money. I didn’t have much to begin with, but whatever I had I donated and whatever money I didn’t have I donated in time.
I’m not here to boast about what I did but I say this in hopes of you doing what you’re capable of doing to help others.
Find and join an international organization or any one that you’re comfortable with, see what is needed and go from there.
We have no excuse anymore. There are so many ways of helping, we just have to spread the word.
I know from the title you guys think that I’ll be talking about the penny I’m making but no. I’m talking about the meaning behind it that I think everyone should starting doing. Whether you’re happy or sad about the elections, it doesn’t really matter to me. You don’t like something, you change it. I know it’s easier said than done but we all have a major responsibility towards this planet and we need to do something beneficial.
I won’t brag about what I do but one simple thing can change everything around you. From my understanding, when God puts some obstacles in our lives it is almost always a test. A test to what we’ll do about it. Will we sit and cry? Will we accept it and be passive about it? or will we be optimistic and try to make things work? I don’t know about you but I’ll go with that last option; be optimistic, be the change, be human and go out confidently and change the world to the better.
I’m fortunate enough to live in a place where people are very accepting of diversity (race, ethnicity, religion, etc). Don’t get me wrong, I do get the occasional glare, the walk back slowly before she does something, the holding the door for someone but not for me and so on. I don’t really care because I don’t really need someone to hold the door for me, I’m a big girl and I can handle it. The reason why I’m telling you this is because of three different incidences that happened to me a few days after Trump won the presidential election.
Usually at Walmart there’s a nice man that greets me every time I walk in with a “Hello, M’am. Welcome to Walmart!” with a big smile. Recently there has been another guy that stands there but for some reason he isn’t as jolly. He greets me with a nasty forced two-second smile. And as I’m leaving he asks for my receipt to check the items; mind you, Walmart doesn’t really do that. But I gladly give him the receipt and leave. Now the weird thing is with all the hatred going on against Muslims, specifically hijabis, this same man, for some unknown reason, greets me with a big smile and a wave! Now all I’m thinking is that it doesn’t make sense. If he’s hated me before, probably because I’m Muslim, now with Trump being president he’s nice to me? I was confused but glad that there was positive energy.
Second incident- Lyft:
After my confusing Walmart experience, I requested a Lyft because I had way too many bags and couldn’t walk in the cold weather carrying all of them. The Lyft driver was very nice, didn’t stay quiet like they usually do, came out of the car to help with my bags instead of just opening the trunk and waiting in the car, again, like they usually do. Not only did he help with my bags putting them in the trunk but when I got home he carried all the bags and took them to the building entrance. That usually doesn’t happen. I know that Lyft and Uber drivers tend to be very nice but I haven’t had that much of luck with them. So my positive energy streak continued. 🙂
Third incident- Building entrance:
Our building has two doors. One on the outside that everyone can walk through and then another door for residents to use their key and get in/for visitors to wait to get buzzed in. So I’m struggling with all my bags trying to lift my arm to swipe the key and next to me are two guys waiting to get buzzed in. Both offer to help and I, like an idiot, say no. Thank God they were gentlemen that insisted to help. Not only did they take the bags from me so that I could swipe, they held the door open for me and carries everything to the elevator, waited for the elevator to come, put the bags inside and left. Who does that these days?!
I don’t know if these people are usually this nice (with the exception of the Walmart guy because I know he’s not usually this nice..at least to me) but .. these things don’t just happen so often like that.
It doesn’t matter to me who you support. As long as you support the good with genuine intentions and do your part that’s enough for me. Don’t be scared. Don’t be afraid. We’re being tested and we need to take this chance to show people what we got! I was upset because of everything that was happening but I didn’t let it get to me and neither should you.
I truly believe that it was because of my positive optimistic energy that people were treating me that way. I think it was because I didn’t let all the negativity get to me. I chose to see the good in people because I really truly believe that deeeeeep down there’s good in everyone and we have the power to bring it out. If you’re afraid, you’ll attract that energy.
Tafaa’lo bil khair, tageduh. Be optimistic and hope for the best and you shall find it.
This blog, and my other pages on Facebook and Instagram, is meant to share my life journey with every little boring detail in it. It has my DIY projects, my recipes for delicious healthy clean eating as well as my juicy cheat days, my adventures and my life lessons. Today’s blog post is about a life lesson.
I’ve learned this life lesson back in high school. Or was it middle school? I don’t remember. But what I do remember is that it was during a character ed class given by Howayda and Lolita. You’ve heard their names before, Howayda is my aunt and Lolita is my life mentor; they’re both way more than that to me but I just thought I’d simplify things. I’d hate to say it, but I’ve hardly had anything learned in school that helped in my everyday real life. What I’m about to share is the exception.
What I’m about to share is what helps me “get real”.
What I’m about share is what keeps me going.
Life really is a four wheel drive. You’re the driver, your life is the actual vehicle and life in general is that drive.
There are four relationships that you need to keep strong and balanced for you to move forward. Now I don’t remember if there’s a specific order but I think there isn’t unless you want to prioritize things, in which case that’s completely up to you.
1. Your relationship with yourself.
You need to know yourself and be honest with yourself. You need to do all thats possible to become a better version of yourself. You need to allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them. You need to know how to let yourself grow. We all have our set of flaws.. know them.. fix them. We also have our set of awesomeness..know them.. do something with them. That something is up to you.
2. Your relationship with your creator/higher being.
It’s really up to you how you do this but based on your beliefs there are certain things you NEED to do. And, as my hubby had told me before, once you’re past that phase of doing things because you need to, you’ll move on to doing things because you want to. Eventually, it’ll come naturally to you. Praying, for instance. We all have to pray. And we all are in one of those phases but the bigger picture here is to know what you should and shouldn’t be going. Create a relationship between you and your creator. You turn to Him when you’re in trouble, for example, so why not have that relationship ongoing?
3. Your relationship with your family, friends, close people in general.
You always have to build a relationship with your family. I say family and not friends because you already built a relationship with your friends by getting to really know each other so that you could become friends. Does that make sense? It made sense in my head (comment below if you need clarification😛 ). With family, they’re always there for you. Even if you feel like they’re out to get you, they always have your best interest at heart. So build that relationship. Make sure you give back that support system they have for you. Do something for them. What exactly? I have no idea. Only you would know that. But the point is to make sure you have a strong relationship with your friends and family.
4. Your relationship with the universe.
I know, I know. THE UNIVERSE sounds very dramatic but you can handle it😉. Start by giving back to the community. Be an active member and do something that would benefit all those around you. Then, do something that will benefit everyone, not just those around you. Do something to save the planet. Do something to save humanity. You’re not small, even if you think you are, you have an impact on those around you. You might not know it but you do. So be a good role model.
Now imagine these four relationships are the four wheels to your car. You need all four wheels moving. You can’t have one moving faster than the other; thats kinda impossible, yeah? Let’s be practical and talk about inflating and deflating the wheels.
If you have one wheel deflated and the rest are inflated your car will move forward but it’ll be an unstable drive.
If you have two of the opposite wheels deflated you’ll still move but it’ll be a bumpy ride.
If you have all four wheels a bit deflated you’ll move forward but it’ll be a sloooow ride.
If you have four wheels completely deflated you won’t move at all. Get some air in there and work on those relationships.
Unstable drive, bumpy ride, slow ride, stand still.. these all obviously apply to your life. So choose the balanced way and work on having all wheels/relationships inflated, moving you forward in a balanced and steady manner.
I sometimes catch myself feeling down because I feel like something is off. It’s only when I sit, reflect and think about this metaphor, that I figure out that I’m not doing my best in one (or more) of these relationships. So I start being honest with myself and see which one(s) I need to work on.
And you know what’s great about this metaphor? It’s that no matter what, you can’t go or move backward. In life, don’t allow yourself to move backward. Be positive and always head on forward.
Hope this helps!